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How to Build a Better You

Follow these simple rules to do better in your professional and personal lives.

By Preeti Vasishtha

Just follow Bryan Dodge’s simple rules and this author, speaker and radio show host promises you will do better in both your professional and personal lives. Dodge explained how each of his rules can help build a better you during FAIFA’s 76th Career Advancement Conference & Expo.

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Be an eager learner. Notice how often you ask “why?” in the next 24 to 48 hours. As adults, you begin to think that you should have all the answers. So you simply stop asking “why?” You also stop asking “why?” because you don’t want others to know that you don’t know. But key to your growth is to keep learning, Dodge says. The brain is the greatest computer and the question “why?” is the key that opens it. People who focus on asking “how?” in their lives end up working for those who ask “why?” Dodge says. To succeed, you have to rediscover the eager learner in you.

Argue. You must argue and be ready to seize the best moments of your life, Dodge says. Everyone is responsible for his or her happiness. But everyone will also have down times because no life is perfect. Be aware of the “On Its Time” principle, which says that “If you’re not in a negative situation now, then just wait because it will come soon, on its time.” Whenever something negative happens, be ready to catch yourself when you fall.

Be thankful. Don’t believe the grass is greener on the other side. “It’s really not greener on the other side,” Dodge says. “It’s just that you are spending too much time looking at that side.” Instead, focus on what you’re supposed to do. Know that if you aren’t selling to people, then somebody else is.

Make the effort to be consciously aware of negative thoughts and protect yourself.
Beware of negative influences. Make the effort to be consciously aware of negative thoughts and protect yourself from them. If someone oppresses you with a negative point of view, Dodge says that a foolproof technique to get rid of the problem is to make a mental note of the cynic as being a “bad seed.” Be on the lookout for these “bad seeds” and don’t let them grow.

Read books. Ask yourself: How many books have I read? The average American reads just one book a year. But a CEO, on average, reads four books a week. You can learn about new subjects and improve your imagination, but the real advantage comes when you share what you’ve read with other people.

Enroll in classes. This doesn’t mean that you should go back to college to gain another degree; instead, focus on building your skills by attending seminars and workshops to learn a new language or update your computer skills. If you choose classes relevant to your job, they could be a worthwhile investment.

Avoid procrastination. Dodge believes in what he calls “The Truth of Diminishing Intent,” which says that you have only 48 hours to do something that you think is right. If you wait longer, you will never do it. Do what you feel is right as soon as it comes to your heart. Don’t let procrastination be the obstacle.

Save money. Everyone spends money. The more money you make, the more money you spend. But saving money can separate you from the usual grind. Dodge recommends the book, The Richest Man in Babylon, as a worthwhile lesson.

Develop a strong memory. Improving your memory will help you in many situations. For instance, it may help you avoid the embarrassing situation of forgetting someone’s name. “Forgetting names is like saying, ’You’re not important,’” Dodge says. It’s easy to not care and to not change, but don’t take the easy road, he says.

 


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